Has your wife ever provided advice or information that you initially blew off as unimportant because you disagreed with it? Then later you find out that she's right.
My wife - on more than one occasion - told me that several acquaintances of mine did not have my best interest at heart. Almost all of the time, I would disagree. "You just don't like him or her," I would proclaim. Of course she in-turn would disagree. Later on down the road as time past, her perception of that particular individual turned out to be correct.
Another and most recent incident is when my air condition compressor went out on my vehicle. I have one belt that goes over three different components. My wife suggested that I go without the a/c for now just to get mobile again. Speaking to many people; mechanics and part housing personnel, I needed to have all three components to get my vehicle functioning again.
My wife indicated that I was listening to people who might be correct but suggested that I keep in mind that they were also in business to make money. I firmly responded to my wife's comment by stating, "I'm not a mechanic; they're the ones that know what they're talking about. There are many intricacies that are involved when fixing this particular problem." Long story short; I met a guy - who just happens to be a mechanic. He informed me how to get my vehicle running without having to use all of the components. My wife was-once again- had proven to be correct.
Because of my un-willingness to take in to consideration what my wife was suggesting, even though I disagreed, I lost two days without the use of my vehicle. Now! I can present many more instances like the ones presented here; where my thoughts and the thought of my wife's did not line up and where she had proven to be correct.
Where does that leave me? Yes; she is right, but certainly not all of the time. Am I that hard-headed or stubborn that I just didn't want to believe what my wife was trying to convey to me? Or, is my little ego man refusing to let go of that, I'm right; your wrong, mentality?
During one of my speaking engagements, I've discovered that many men react similar when it comes to taking advise from their spouse. Most men indicated that they too fail to humble themselves and listen to the advice their woman have to offer; at least at first.
When we fail to consider the advice or ponder the information offered by our spouses-even if we disagree-we are not completely evolving as a man. We've got to let it go... our ego that is. Contrary to popular belief, we are not the smartest gender; or at least not all of the time.
You see, God gave man many things; authority, the right to be head of households, leadership in the church, and yes..., woman. He gave them to us to be our helpmate. No, not the type of helpmate as we've defined it; cooking, cleaning, working to help with the bills or to support a certain lifestyle.
However, they are here in our lives to help us make better life choices for you, her, and the family. I truly believe that God gave women an ability to see certain things that a man can't see. Call it wisdom or a woman's intuition; they're a gift from God and they want to help. We should not be afraid of listen to and take advice from them. King Solomon himself likened wisdom to a woman.
So the next time she offers her opinion or makes a suggestion don't feel threatened or think that your letting go of your beliefs, she just might have the right answer.
My wife - on more than one occasion - told me that several acquaintances of mine did not have my best interest at heart. Almost all of the time, I would disagree. "You just don't like him or her," I would proclaim. Of course she in-turn would disagree. Later on down the road as time past, her perception of that particular individual turned out to be correct.
Another and most recent incident is when my air condition compressor went out on my vehicle. I have one belt that goes over three different components. My wife suggested that I go without the a/c for now just to get mobile again. Speaking to many people; mechanics and part housing personnel, I needed to have all three components to get my vehicle functioning again.
My wife indicated that I was listening to people who might be correct but suggested that I keep in mind that they were also in business to make money. I firmly responded to my wife's comment by stating, "I'm not a mechanic; they're the ones that know what they're talking about. There are many intricacies that are involved when fixing this particular problem." Long story short; I met a guy - who just happens to be a mechanic. He informed me how to get my vehicle running without having to use all of the components. My wife was-once again- had proven to be correct.
Because of my un-willingness to take in to consideration what my wife was suggesting, even though I disagreed, I lost two days without the use of my vehicle. Now! I can present many more instances like the ones presented here; where my thoughts and the thought of my wife's did not line up and where she had proven to be correct.
Where does that leave me? Yes; she is right, but certainly not all of the time. Am I that hard-headed or stubborn that I just didn't want to believe what my wife was trying to convey to me? Or, is my little ego man refusing to let go of that, I'm right; your wrong, mentality?
During one of my speaking engagements, I've discovered that many men react similar when it comes to taking advise from their spouse. Most men indicated that they too fail to humble themselves and listen to the advice their woman have to offer; at least at first.
When we fail to consider the advice or ponder the information offered by our spouses-even if we disagree-we are not completely evolving as a man. We've got to let it go... our ego that is. Contrary to popular belief, we are not the smartest gender; or at least not all of the time.
You see, God gave man many things; authority, the right to be head of households, leadership in the church, and yes..., woman. He gave them to us to be our helpmate. No, not the type of helpmate as we've defined it; cooking, cleaning, working to help with the bills or to support a certain lifestyle.
However, they are here in our lives to help us make better life choices for you, her, and the family. I truly believe that God gave women an ability to see certain things that a man can't see. Call it wisdom or a woman's intuition; they're a gift from God and they want to help. We should not be afraid of listen to and take advice from them. King Solomon himself likened wisdom to a woman.
So the next time she offers her opinion or makes a suggestion don't feel threatened or think that your letting go of your beliefs, she just might have the right answer.
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